Things to Do in February (if you’re single)

A few years ago we started a newsletter tradition- a list of things to do in February if you are single. This year, we’ve expanded our ideas to include not only those who may find themselves dreading the celebration of romantic love, but also those who are looking to rediscover other ways to add more [...]

Mindfulness: Finding Balance and Joy in Everyday Life

As I gaze at the natural beauty outside my window today – waves crashing, gulls soaring, wind whipping the sea grass – it strikes me how much of my everyday life is spent NOT noticing. How often have I rushed through my morning routine not present, oblivious to the leaves dancing in the early fall [...]

Your Holiday List

Lately I’ve been reading a lot about the holidays: what to cook, how to decorate, what to buy (and what to ask for…). And gradually it dawned on me — these articles are all about what to do for others, or what to ask others to do for you! Don’t get me wrong – I [...]

Finding Your Personal Power in Divorce

During my divorce, I struggled desperately with a pervasive, frightening sense of being unmoored and out of control. I felt whipped around by my ex’s actions, my emotions and the events swirling around me. One minute I was swept away with uncontrollable rage; the next, paralyzed with grief. I’d lost my center and my direction. [...]

But I Didn’t Want To Hurt You . . .

I often hear this from clients: “I didn’t tell my wife I was unhappy because I didn’t want to hurt her.” “I haven’t told my children I’m sick because I don’t want them to worry.” “I can’t tell my boyfriend I want to see other people because he’d be upset.” In other words: “I can’t [...]

Are You a Survivor or an Enhancer?

When Theresa’s husband of 15 years announced he wanted a divorce, she was devastated. She says, “I couldn’t believe he was throwing away the life we had. He said he wasn’t happy. Well, I wasn’t happy either, but I was willing to stick it out! But I’m strong – I got through it. It was [...]

On Being The Captain of Your Character

                                                                                                Though not the master of one’s fate, one may still be captain of one’s soul.                                     – Philip Brickman   Divorce can bring out the worst in people:  your ex (or his sister or her best friend) calls you unflattering names.  Or you discover your ex has misrepresented his finances or broken the terms [...]